Young DN has officially graduated from his kindergarten and I have no more young ones in the kindy system. Time flies actually, to see your kids growing up every day. No wonder, friends have been telling me that it’s worthwhile to spend time with your kids when they are below 7 years old. As parents, we should be playing with them, rather than letting them playing by themselves, with us supervising their play. We should not be around them, but present in their lives with them so that they will remember us when they grow older.
I actually do agree with this statement.
I once read a story of how a child who spent his childhood in childcare and when he grew up, he put both his parents in day care. The reason for him putting them in daycare(even though he could afford a helper to tend to their needs) was that he has no time to care for them. That was the same view expressed by his parents when he was a child.
Nevertheless, DN performed his best today and we were delighted with the performance from the children. I did not expect it to be so grand.
Lately, my eldest had completed her continuous assessment for Term 3 and the results she gotten was not as what I expected to be, but nevertheless, she showed improvement.
As a mom, I felt guilty as I have not been spending time with her doing her homework. I let her play as I felt that childhood should be more better spent having fun. All this while, I have this mentality. I know I am right in my own parenting. However, with the results that she had, I thought it would be more better to focus on her studies rather than play. Especially so when next year is her streaming exam.
I got a tutor for her, so that someone would be able to help me to guide and monitor her progress. I very much wanted to coach her studies but it is impossible to do so, especially when I had my studies to cope with and to teach the younger ones in their work.
Reflection of the day: to spend at least 45 mins of my time with her to do her homework.
I guess it’s doable….and well, I have to think of ways to entertain the younger siblings till their turn for their study.
I just visited the Changi Airport T1 and was excited to see these famous places of interest on miniature displays. Some of the display have the trains in motion or mobiles on movement. The kids were thrilled and insisted to take pictures with it. I am interested in the Gardens by the Bay and the Marina Bay Sands.
I am not totally a perfectionist or a meticulous person.
However, when it comes to gadgets stuff, I tend to like all things beautifully crafted out, such as a handphone case where transparent types are concerned. A little scratch on it or a little chip will make me feel unsettled and not wanting it even.
I am the typical Singaporean if things are not 100% perfect, I want to do a one to one exchange or refund.
Last Saturday, I went to get an iPhone 6S + case as the old iPhone 6+ transparent casing does not fit at all. I went to a nearby neighbourhood shopping mall and got a hard transparent casing with nice ponies as the design. I did not care that much then as I was hurrying home.
After settling my kids, I decided to change the casing and that was when I detected a small chip at the sides of the casing.
Me: “do you think I should get it change, dear?”
hubb: “up to you, you can change it tomorrow if you want”.
Me: “but its really a small chip…if you were me, will you change?”
hubb: “no. because it is not really obvious”.
At this time, I went to examine further and decided to change the casing.
After changing to the new casing, I showed to hubby that the chip cannot be seen very well but when you handle the casing, you can feel the chip.
I began to ask myself this question….
“So what if it’s chipped? If it served my purpose, its ok. For the amount of petrol and carpark fees incurred, it would not be worth it. Also, if I do not want this casing, poor “fella” would have to be a condemned item and forever be “banished” to the storeroom/trashroom whatever it is. Hence, I decided to take the challenge of not changing it and using it as though it’s a perfect product.
Today is the 5th day of using the casing…so far so good! I am learning to accept flaws.
This applies to parenting as well. Our kids may not be a 100% perfect, ideal kid. Each of them have their strengths and weaknesses too and as parents, we need to embrace all of these. Strengthen the strengths and convert weaknesses to strengths.
All of us have a flaw….as long as the flaw is not of any evil intention or harm to society, we can accept that and have to live with it. If its changeable, why not?
Children are innocent beings and are special gifts. As parents, we are their first models so that they learn and adapt themselves to their surroundings. Hence, I believe the upbringing and nurturing are of great importance. I am not a great parent and still learning through this journey. But I will always pause and reflect back on the little decisions and examine the impact that it had on the children. Learn from it, and seek the best alternative for the best choice.